Where to Draw the Line between Career and Family
Having a family is for the love of life
For the majority of people the world is a hectic place; which can make life very challenging on the best of days. It's no secret the demands placed on the average person start to magnify as one matures and becomes an adult; throw in a sprinkle of family and dash of career, and eventually stress and expectations seem to go hand in hand. Despite all of the responsibilities that come with a growing family, and becoming an adult, the secret to staying sane in life is happiness and love; and believe it or not this starts at home.
This society, and the time constraints associated with it, makes it harder to find a positive frame of mind, but it is something that one must strive for to make life worth living. It is incredibly important in this existence to find happiness, without it the possibility of negativity settling in increases, which can lead one down a dark and often lonely path.
To make life work, the way it is currently structured, one must juggle a career with loved ones, the caveat however is; many careers are not very forgiving and extremely time consuming. In addition, there is an increase in the "What have you done for me lately" supervisors at the job place. Nevertheless, despite this fact, a line needs to be drawn between work and home life if a good quality of life is to be achieved.
This society, and the time constraints associated with it, makes it harder to find a positive frame of mind, but it is something that one must strive for to make life worth living. It is incredibly important in this existence to find happiness, without it the possibility of negativity settling in increases, which can lead one down a dark and often lonely path.
To make life work, the way it is currently structured, one must juggle a career with loved ones, the caveat however is; many careers are not very forgiving and extremely time consuming. In addition, there is an increase in the "What have you done for me lately" supervisors at the job place. Nevertheless, despite this fact, a line needs to be drawn between work and home life if a good quality of life is to be achieved.
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To be happy, family must come first. A career is fine, and if one can juggle them hand in hand with a family that's great, but more often than not the career becomes demanding and the family life suffers. At the end of the day, one does not go home, prepare dinner and go to sleep with their career; if they do; they will almost certainly end up suffering mentally, spiritually and physically down the road.
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The slippery slope to being unhappy and falling out of love is greased by a career. The more time spent at work, the less at home, and if that's what one wants, then they are not happy and need to re-evaluate their relationship. Therefore as responsibilities at work increase, so does stress, and the first casualty is often family life. Throw children into the equation and life gets much more complicated.
Catch stress fast enough and it will turn into desserts!
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Bringing children into this world requires planning, careful thought and most of all love. If one is on the road all the time, or doesn't have the time to help bring up their own children, then more often than not the kids end up with caregivers. Life doesn't have to be this way, but in these cases, the parents put their career ahead of their children, sometimes through no fault of their own.
Nevertheless many of the kids today have not been raised by either of their own parents, mostly because of finances, time constraints, and sometimes for greed and selfish reasons. These children therefore have a rift; an emptiness that would not be there if at least one parent had been present as they were growing up. The bottom line is there is no substitute for love, no matter how much money a person makes, and it's evident in the children that have been raised by at least one of their parents.
In life, sacrifices must be made to ensure the children are brought up with love and confidence. One such sacrifice is financial, and that simply means living in a smaller house with fewer taxes that one can afford, not some dwelling that signifies arrogance and stretches budgets to the limit. Remember, the world is a grand illusion and what is advertised in NOT the way it should be; therefore do what your heart tells you and not what is bandied about in mainstream society.
Nevertheless many of the kids today have not been raised by either of their own parents, mostly because of finances, time constraints, and sometimes for greed and selfish reasons. These children therefore have a rift; an emptiness that would not be there if at least one parent had been present as they were growing up. The bottom line is there is no substitute for love, no matter how much money a person makes, and it's evident in the children that have been raised by at least one of their parents.
In life, sacrifices must be made to ensure the children are brought up with love and confidence. One such sacrifice is financial, and that simply means living in a smaller house with fewer taxes that one can afford, not some dwelling that signifies arrogance and stretches budgets to the limit. Remember, the world is a grand illusion and what is advertised in NOT the way it should be; therefore do what your heart tells you and not what is bandied about in mainstream society.
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When looking for love, the first element encountered is often physical attraction. However, if a relationship is to endure, there must be something in common between the two people. That's the spark that keeps the flame burning, once this is achieved, true love cannot be broken and many couples can make it through any challenges tossed at them in life.
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When people first meet and fall in love one of the most fantastic pastimes is sex. Being sensual with the one that you love is akin to suspending time, because during the act, time does not matter. However, as kids come into the picture and work becomes stressful, sex is not as enjoyable because the reckless abandon that used to be present in a relationship is filled with anxiety, financial pressures and of course, less time.
To help reduce stress buildup and anxiety bring laughter into the household. Laughing is a long life tonic because it makes people happy. In fact, laughing out loud and taking life with a grain of salt is very good for the health. Laughter is also contagious, of course it has to be genuine, but if one has a good sense of humor it’s also coveted by one’s significant other because it can literally turn a bad day into a happy one. Here are some tips on how laughter reduces stress and makes life better (http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2014/11/13/10-fascinating-facts-laughter.aspx).
Keep in mind, the game of life is often rigged in favor of the workplace and thus keeping happiness and love in a family and a spark in one's relationship is a daunting task, but it can be done. Remember, a career can always be replaced and changed, whereas replacing a family and a significant other is a far more painful process. With that in mind, don’t try to over-achieve at work, if one can find a sweet spot, which makes their job tolerable, one will deal with less stress. In fact, it can be entertaining to watch other people trip over each other for a higher position and then watch them lose their hair for a few extra dollars a pay check.
To help reduce stress buildup and anxiety bring laughter into the household. Laughing is a long life tonic because it makes people happy. In fact, laughing out loud and taking life with a grain of salt is very good for the health. Laughter is also contagious, of course it has to be genuine, but if one has a good sense of humor it’s also coveted by one’s significant other because it can literally turn a bad day into a happy one. Here are some tips on how laughter reduces stress and makes life better (http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2014/11/13/10-fascinating-facts-laughter.aspx).
Keep in mind, the game of life is often rigged in favor of the workplace and thus keeping happiness and love in a family and a spark in one's relationship is a daunting task, but it can be done. Remember, a career can always be replaced and changed, whereas replacing a family and a significant other is a far more painful process. With that in mind, don’t try to over-achieve at work, if one can find a sweet spot, which makes their job tolerable, one will deal with less stress. In fact, it can be entertaining to watch other people trip over each other for a higher position and then watch them lose their hair for a few extra dollars a pay check.
Laughter is free and very healthy
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Love is the key to happiness
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Which makes life worth living
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The moral of the story is people really need to put themselves and their family first; there are no exceptions to this rule, anything less will not do. People who pretend a career is more important than a family are burying themselves in false comfort to cover their unhappiness and loneliness and often end up with the work crowd to fill in the gaps. This almost always never ends well and can often stunt a career because people become too personal with their peers at work. This can lead to crossing the line and ending up in the bedroom with a co-worker which ultimately destroys the marriage they worked so hard to achieve.
Peace of mind away from work is a key factor to happiness outside of it. If one has a job that demands working at home, it will undoubtedly interfere with home life, nonetheless if one values their family and their spouse, then a new job must be sought if it interferes too much. Please remember corporations are only in it for the profit, to them you are just a number, therefore turn the tables on them, and do what’s in your best interest and try leaving the job that may cause relationship and personal instability at home.
Peace of mind away from work is a key factor to happiness outside of it. If one has a job that demands working at home, it will undoubtedly interfere with home life, nonetheless if one values their family and their spouse, then a new job must be sought if it interferes too much. Please remember corporations are only in it for the profit, to them you are just a number, therefore turn the tables on them, and do what’s in your best interest and try leaving the job that may cause relationship and personal instability at home.
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When searching for a new position, there is usually a gap between the current job and the new job, thus it's important to practice mental strength while searching and waiting for a better career. This involves leaving the current job literally at work, whether the manager likes it or not. Therefore once quitting time arrives, leave the laptop and work related issues at work; this will bring clarity and peace to one's mind.
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Leaving work behind in a high pressure environment is not an easy task, however it can be attained through various practices such as; self-discipline, meditation, yoga, exercise, hobbies and down time with the one's that you love. It's equally important to leave work discussions at home as this simply adds stress to life when quality time should be spent with one's significant other and the family. Too much discussion about work at home leaves a resonance about a person and can lead to bad habits such as too much drinking, smoking, drugs and other temporary pain relievers. Be aware, these "tonics" will only lead to bigger problems down the road, so it's important to stay as natural as possible during any transition time.
Parachuting happiness and love into life is a probability if one seriously considers the reasons one becomes miserable in the first place. Remembering the family first rule is of paramount importance, but one must execute it to the nth degree to ensure no career, or society model encroaches on one's happiness. Be cognizant of the fact that you are here for a life filled with wonder and love; to that end make sure it will be so!
Love and happiness will also lead a couple and their family to a very positive and rich life experience. It often creates an invulnerable invisible shield around the family that no jealous eye or demanding workplace can penetrate. This is often to the chagrin of envious people, but like snow on a warm day, their ideas of how your relationship should work will melt away.
Never lose sight of what love can actually offer, because there is no amount of money in the world that can replace it. Love is akin to the fountain of youth, if one has it, they are always cheerful, confident and fun to be around, but if one does not, they are often moody, vengeful and quite often jealous and hateful. It’s important to remember, at a job one is just a cog on the wheel in a hierarchical corporate system, whereas at home where love is involved, a soul can reach new heights every day, prompting creativity, laughter and a happy, healthy, long and prosperous life.
Where the heart rules the mind, one will find a strong family that cannot be broken. As this realm spins into the future, that alone will make this a stronger world. If the brave new world unfolds with love as the epicenter, then Gaia and her people will rejoice because peace and joy will break out on her surface, never to see war and hatred again.
Parachuting happiness and love into life is a probability if one seriously considers the reasons one becomes miserable in the first place. Remembering the family first rule is of paramount importance, but one must execute it to the nth degree to ensure no career, or society model encroaches on one's happiness. Be cognizant of the fact that you are here for a life filled with wonder and love; to that end make sure it will be so!
Love and happiness will also lead a couple and their family to a very positive and rich life experience. It often creates an invulnerable invisible shield around the family that no jealous eye or demanding workplace can penetrate. This is often to the chagrin of envious people, but like snow on a warm day, their ideas of how your relationship should work will melt away.
Never lose sight of what love can actually offer, because there is no amount of money in the world that can replace it. Love is akin to the fountain of youth, if one has it, they are always cheerful, confident and fun to be around, but if one does not, they are often moody, vengeful and quite often jealous and hateful. It’s important to remember, at a job one is just a cog on the wheel in a hierarchical corporate system, whereas at home where love is involved, a soul can reach new heights every day, prompting creativity, laughter and a happy, healthy, long and prosperous life.
Where the heart rules the mind, one will find a strong family that cannot be broken. As this realm spins into the future, that alone will make this a stronger world. If the brave new world unfolds with love as the epicenter, then Gaia and her people will rejoice because peace and joy will break out on her surface, never to see war and hatred again.
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