Treat your Grandparents with Respect
These are times to cherish
In the "me" age, one item appears to rear its head more than it should; and that's the way parents are treated by their kids after they have
left the home and gone out on their own.
First off, kids nowadays want everything. That's tough for the parents to fulfill all their wishes, or even some of them; especially when parents need to strike a balance between giving time and love to their kids, and materialistic items to keep them happy. However the focus here is on kids that have left the nest, and forged out on their
own.
When one leaves home, gets married, moves out, or whatever the case may be; they have made the decision that they can fly on their own so to speak. There is nothing wrong with staying in touch with your parents, and even asking for help every now and then if you really need it, but by moving towards a more independent platform in life, one has made the statement that they are ready, willing and able to live life as an adult.
When these young adults become more settled and begin to raise a family, they assume responsibility for them. The kids they bring into this world are not the responsibility of your
parents, or more specifically your children's grandparents. Grandparents love to see their grandchildren, and are often willing to go out of their way to see them. It's quite a nice relationship to see the new members of the family with their wise, older kin. Nowadays however, too many young adults that have left the nest to raise their own families put far too much pressure on their parents. They take them for granted and even border on being disrespectful at times.
This needs to stop.
left the home and gone out on their own.
First off, kids nowadays want everything. That's tough for the parents to fulfill all their wishes, or even some of them; especially when parents need to strike a balance between giving time and love to their kids, and materialistic items to keep them happy. However the focus here is on kids that have left the nest, and forged out on their
own.
When one leaves home, gets married, moves out, or whatever the case may be; they have made the decision that they can fly on their own so to speak. There is nothing wrong with staying in touch with your parents, and even asking for help every now and then if you really need it, but by moving towards a more independent platform in life, one has made the statement that they are ready, willing and able to live life as an adult.
When these young adults become more settled and begin to raise a family, they assume responsibility for them. The kids they bring into this world are not the responsibility of your
parents, or more specifically your children's grandparents. Grandparents love to see their grandchildren, and are often willing to go out of their way to see them. It's quite a nice relationship to see the new members of the family with their wise, older kin. Nowadays however, too many young adults that have left the nest to raise their own families put far too much pressure on their parents. They take them for granted and even border on being disrespectful at times.
This needs to stop.
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Grandparents these days should not have to raise
their own kids and also another set of grandkids unless they really want to. Honestly, how many really want that? They have done their deal and raised their family, so they do not need an additional burden. Many older folks are either too polite to tell their kids how they feel, or they wish to avoid confrontation. |
When one raises a family, they have made the decision to stop living the single life. They have decided to settle down, and thus take all the good and the bad which goes with it. When young adults leave the nest, is it not time for the grandparents to start to live the way they want? Sure they love their kids and grandkids, but that is not a ticket to drop them off every chance you get to enjoy "single time" with your spouse or significant other.
Many grandparents do what they can by making excuses, or if they have the money to fly to destinations for lengthy times. This accomplishes two goals; one the grandparents get the time to spend with each other which they have worked for all their lives, and two; the young adults actually have to deal with raising a family and not juggling their time schedule around the grandparents. It's a tonic needed for a young couple with children.
The message is simple; if you are a young adult with a family, take care of your own children! You did not continue the tradition of raising kids to have the burden falling back on your kids grandparents. They have paid their dues, now it's time to pay yours. If they really don't mind taking them for a few hours at a time, then consider yourself lucky.
Parents and grandparents are to be cherished. They have spent a lifetime with you to raise you. They have wisdom beyond what you have and thus much to offer. They also wish to spend a great deal of their time with each other, not necessarily with their kids. It's not a slight on the parents, or the grandkids, it's simply piece of mind and freedom to be able to do the things they could never do when they were working with a young family of their own.
Stop and be considerate when you are thinking of imposing on people, especially the people that changed your diapers, and brought you up. Leave the family get-togethers for the times the grandchildren see their grandparents, and family time will be much better for everyone.
Many grandparents do what they can by making excuses, or if they have the money to fly to destinations for lengthy times. This accomplishes two goals; one the grandparents get the time to spend with each other which they have worked for all their lives, and two; the young adults actually have to deal with raising a family and not juggling their time schedule around the grandparents. It's a tonic needed for a young couple with children.
The message is simple; if you are a young adult with a family, take care of your own children! You did not continue the tradition of raising kids to have the burden falling back on your kids grandparents. They have paid their dues, now it's time to pay yours. If they really don't mind taking them for a few hours at a time, then consider yourself lucky.
Parents and grandparents are to be cherished. They have spent a lifetime with you to raise you. They have wisdom beyond what you have and thus much to offer. They also wish to spend a great deal of their time with each other, not necessarily with their kids. It's not a slight on the parents, or the grandkids, it's simply piece of mind and freedom to be able to do the things they could never do when they were working with a young family of their own.
Stop and be considerate when you are thinking of imposing on people, especially the people that changed your diapers, and brought you up. Leave the family get-togethers for the times the grandchildren see their grandparents, and family time will be much better for everyone.
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