Teasing and Self Confidence
Self confidence can move mountains
Teasing anyone results in insecurity and causes anxious moments for children, teenagers and adults, so it's best not to do it at all.
Children in particular are vulnerable to this. Adults, for the most part, can fend for themselves, but young kids behaviors are developed early. Teenagers are at risk because they are at a fragile age, and have to deal with the social train wreck of high school, unless they are popular.
Children love toys, and a child will likely have a favorite toy, or a number of toys, that will mean little or nothing to an older kid or an adult. The child holds that toy in high regard, and it may mean everything to them the moment they are playing with it. In their universe, from their perspective, the world revolves around that toy and is the object of desire. Allow the child to play with the toy until they put it down. Do not take the toy away from them. If you do, the child becomes frustrated and confused and they get upset. This is basically a form of teasing.
Adults should never tease a child. What could the child have that is of such importance to the adult? Why would an adult take a toy away and be mean and hide it? Or constantly keep it out of their reach. This will affect the child and they will grow up insecure and with behavioral issues. Adults should laugh and play with the child. Re-assure them showing
love and affection, and the child will grow up with full confidence.
A child with no confidence, largely due to teasing, will take longer to be assertive and will likely have problems in life until they can get themselves out of the funk. Confidence is extremely important in the development of people. The younger in life they have confidence, the more willing they are to try things that they would not have if they lacked confidence. A person unsure of themselves will be second and third guessing just about every decision they make. This will slow them down socially, create problems they would not have otherwise had, and basically likely end up being the biggest obstacle they will face in life until they can truly get over the hurdle.
An unconfident person feels unworthy to themselves and others. They do not perform well in; school, jobs, interviews, social gatherings, and they don't feel they are worthy of relationships.
Children in particular are vulnerable to this. Adults, for the most part, can fend for themselves, but young kids behaviors are developed early. Teenagers are at risk because they are at a fragile age, and have to deal with the social train wreck of high school, unless they are popular.
Children love toys, and a child will likely have a favorite toy, or a number of toys, that will mean little or nothing to an older kid or an adult. The child holds that toy in high regard, and it may mean everything to them the moment they are playing with it. In their universe, from their perspective, the world revolves around that toy and is the object of desire. Allow the child to play with the toy until they put it down. Do not take the toy away from them. If you do, the child becomes frustrated and confused and they get upset. This is basically a form of teasing.
Adults should never tease a child. What could the child have that is of such importance to the adult? Why would an adult take a toy away and be mean and hide it? Or constantly keep it out of their reach. This will affect the child and they will grow up insecure and with behavioral issues. Adults should laugh and play with the child. Re-assure them showing
love and affection, and the child will grow up with full confidence.
A child with no confidence, largely due to teasing, will take longer to be assertive and will likely have problems in life until they can get themselves out of the funk. Confidence is extremely important in the development of people. The younger in life they have confidence, the more willing they are to try things that they would not have if they lacked confidence. A person unsure of themselves will be second and third guessing just about every decision they make. This will slow them down socially, create problems they would not have otherwise had, and basically likely end up being the biggest obstacle they will face in life until they can truly get over the hurdle.
An unconfident person feels unworthy to themselves and others. They do not perform well in; school, jobs, interviews, social gatherings, and they don't feel they are worthy of relationships.
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A teenager has the added bonus of hormones kicking in. Like learning a new game, they have to try to learn how to master their new feelings in a sea of negative comments from the school system they are subjected to. Unlike the game
however, this cannot be mastered in a few weeks, but rather takes years to get to maturity. Teasing teenagers about their looks, clothes, haircut and habits and not painting things in a constructive manner fills the person full of; doubt, discouragement, anxiety, depression and they lack faith in themselves. |
Understand what a teenager is going through as a person, because we all went through it.
Teenagers dress differently than adults, they wear their hair differently, listen to different music and do not do what you did as a kid. As they mature they discover sexuality which is a large distraction in high school. Observe their behavior and see what is important to them. Talk to them and try to absorb what you can to try to understand what may be bothering them. Do not belittle them because you disapprove of the way they dress or the shows they watch. Encourage them whenever you can and try to remember they would like to be understood and loved just like anyone else. And remember this too will pass when they reach the stage of being a young adult.
If adults tease adults they should know better. By doing this they show their own form of
insecurity and are likely jealous of the person they are teasing. However, unlike a teenager or a child, an adult is aware of, and has many more options to deal with people like these. In the work place, harassment is usually not tolerated and can be dealt with swiftly. Sexual harassment is dealt with more harshly and could also be classified as teasing or flirting until there is physical contact. If teasing goes on in a marriage, then the couple will likely end up having problems. The bottom line as an adult has options, and they are usually more able to stand up for themselves than younger people.
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Teenagers dress differently than adults, they wear their hair differently, listen to different music and do not do what you did as a kid. As they mature they discover sexuality which is a large distraction in high school. Observe their behavior and see what is important to them. Talk to them and try to absorb what you can to try to understand what may be bothering them. Do not belittle them because you disapprove of the way they dress or the shows they watch. Encourage them whenever you can and try to remember they would like to be understood and loved just like anyone else. And remember this too will pass when they reach the stage of being a young adult.
If adults tease adults they should know better. By doing this they show their own form of
insecurity and are likely jealous of the person they are teasing. However, unlike a teenager or a child, an adult is aware of, and has many more options to deal with people like these. In the work place, harassment is usually not tolerated and can be dealt with swiftly. Sexual harassment is dealt with more harshly and could also be classified as teasing or flirting until there is physical contact. If teasing goes on in a marriage, then the couple will likely end up having problems. The bottom line as an adult has options, and they are usually more able to stand up for themselves than younger people.
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Teasing really is a form of extracting confidence from the other person. It does not help the world go around and is a detriment to developing people properly. Each teasing "session" plunges the person into a bigger cloud of self-doubt. Always let a person know who teases you, that what they are doing in not appreciated. That is not something to be shy about.
A confident individual is a person who moves through life seamlessly and with purpose.
Reinforce children, teenagers and adults with confidence and watch them soar in society always reaching for something better.
A confident individual is a person who moves through life seamlessly and with purpose.
Reinforce children, teenagers and adults with confidence and watch them soar in society always reaching for something better.
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