Switching Schools can make a World of Difference
A new school means a fresh start
Everyone who is an adult has been through the
elementary and secondary school systems. In some places middle schools are meant to bridge the gap between grades six and grade eight before high school. Often many people went through very uncomfortable times during their school years, especially during the years puberty sets in.
Kids have cliques, and create divisions between
each other making certain people more uncomfortable than they need to be. Many children get excluded and lies are created by the back stabbing leaders of these groups. This often results in many children being left out, and verbally picked on when the teachers are not around to witness it. All the while the leaders of the cliques will be the first to drop their friends if they see an opportunity to move up socially in the school.
The kids getting picked on verbally feel alienated. It is not long before the parents are called into the school to find out their child has some sort of a social problem. Soon thereafter drugs are suggested to correct your child’s behavioral problems.
If your child is one of these kids you often second guess yourself because they do not exhibit any of these behaviors at home. In fact, you may have been complimented on how your child is a leader and is very smart, but somehow you are being told the opposite and the drugs from the pharmaceutical industry will magically get your child acting the same at school as they do at home.
elementary and secondary school systems. In some places middle schools are meant to bridge the gap between grades six and grade eight before high school. Often many people went through very uncomfortable times during their school years, especially during the years puberty sets in.
Kids have cliques, and create divisions between
each other making certain people more uncomfortable than they need to be. Many children get excluded and lies are created by the back stabbing leaders of these groups. This often results in many children being left out, and verbally picked on when the teachers are not around to witness it. All the while the leaders of the cliques will be the first to drop their friends if they see an opportunity to move up socially in the school.
The kids getting picked on verbally feel alienated. It is not long before the parents are called into the school to find out their child has some sort of a social problem. Soon thereafter drugs are suggested to correct your child’s behavioral problems.
If your child is one of these kids you often second guess yourself because they do not exhibit any of these behaviors at home. In fact, you may have been complimented on how your child is a leader and is very smart, but somehow you are being told the opposite and the drugs from the pharmaceutical industry will magically get your child acting the same at school as they do at home.
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The root of the problem is the quick answers that society seeks to every problem. Many issues need to be dealt with by the people being paid to do their jobs when your child is at school, but the problem is they are also
under much stress and are trained to look for these “problems” and identify them and apply the solutions they have been taught. |
Parents, teachers and educational professionals, such as; councillors need to approach this problem differently. They must approach it as if the pharmaceutical companies do not even exist, because believe it or not there was a time when they did not; and looking at the damage it has done to kids years later is all the evidence one needs to avoid drugs for your child to begin with.
Common sense is a good start. If certain children are being picked on, ask the teachers to be more vigilant and watch for verbal bullying and segregation both in the classroom and in the schoolyard. To really find the problem, don’t look at the child being picked on, but rather look at the leader of the clique calling the shots and placing that child into suppressive behavior. More often than not, the person that causes the problem will be the leader and most popular person in that group. This person also knows how to work the teachers, and does so with such finesse that they are the least suspected as the one causing the problems, because they help the teachers when asked.
Parents really need to talk and interact with their children to find out what the real problem is. Some kids don’t like the friends for reasons mentioned above, others don’t like the material being taught. Remember the education system is a boxed formula, a one size fits all curriculum which is meant to challenge and elevate kids to certain levels. However, a boxed in set of rules does not work for the really creative kids. These ones need a different approach to education and since they don’t get one, they are labelled dreamers, and their artistic and creative desires are supressed by the system. In short the education system is based on the logical left side of the brain initiative, thus excluding the right side of the brain which is the creative, intuitive dreamers side.
If you constantly fight with the schools and your child is not doing well the best window of opportunity to move them may be when they switch from grade five to middle school or from middle school to high school. By taking your child out of an environment they do not feel comfortable in and placing them in a new school with a different set of kids, you give the child a brand new start. Believe it or not it also lowers the stress level of the parents as well, because they are not constantly fighting with the school over their child. By switching schools at this time, no questions are asked by the new school, because it’s a natural switch for kids to go to a different school at those times.
By moving schools this creates confidence for the child because their previous baggage that was attached to them by mean kids is left behind. They get a fresh, new start to life in school. This may be followed with a complete attitude change within a few weeks, and will have the parents smiling from ear to ear. The new start usually means making new friends; and thus being more of themselves when they are at school. If your child likes art, encourage it and try to find a school with a more creative component in their curriculum. Just the change alone can make a world of difference. You may see their marks improve and their happiness increase beyond previous expectations.
By switching schools for your kids you are also solving the problems the teachers and kids in the other school could not. Chalk it up to experience for you and your child going forward and don’t blame anyone for the reasons you had to do this, just be grateful that life is better now and that the change was meant to happen.
Switching schools and giving your child a brand new start may be just the tonic required for
a happier, more positive life for everyone involved; it's worth considering if nothing else seems to work.
Common sense is a good start. If certain children are being picked on, ask the teachers to be more vigilant and watch for verbal bullying and segregation both in the classroom and in the schoolyard. To really find the problem, don’t look at the child being picked on, but rather look at the leader of the clique calling the shots and placing that child into suppressive behavior. More often than not, the person that causes the problem will be the leader and most popular person in that group. This person also knows how to work the teachers, and does so with such finesse that they are the least suspected as the one causing the problems, because they help the teachers when asked.
Parents really need to talk and interact with their children to find out what the real problem is. Some kids don’t like the friends for reasons mentioned above, others don’t like the material being taught. Remember the education system is a boxed formula, a one size fits all curriculum which is meant to challenge and elevate kids to certain levels. However, a boxed in set of rules does not work for the really creative kids. These ones need a different approach to education and since they don’t get one, they are labelled dreamers, and their artistic and creative desires are supressed by the system. In short the education system is based on the logical left side of the brain initiative, thus excluding the right side of the brain which is the creative, intuitive dreamers side.
If you constantly fight with the schools and your child is not doing well the best window of opportunity to move them may be when they switch from grade five to middle school or from middle school to high school. By taking your child out of an environment they do not feel comfortable in and placing them in a new school with a different set of kids, you give the child a brand new start. Believe it or not it also lowers the stress level of the parents as well, because they are not constantly fighting with the school over their child. By switching schools at this time, no questions are asked by the new school, because it’s a natural switch for kids to go to a different school at those times.
By moving schools this creates confidence for the child because their previous baggage that was attached to them by mean kids is left behind. They get a fresh, new start to life in school. This may be followed with a complete attitude change within a few weeks, and will have the parents smiling from ear to ear. The new start usually means making new friends; and thus being more of themselves when they are at school. If your child likes art, encourage it and try to find a school with a more creative component in their curriculum. Just the change alone can make a world of difference. You may see their marks improve and their happiness increase beyond previous expectations.
By switching schools for your kids you are also solving the problems the teachers and kids in the other school could not. Chalk it up to experience for you and your child going forward and don’t blame anyone for the reasons you had to do this, just be grateful that life is better now and that the change was meant to happen.
Switching schools and giving your child a brand new start may be just the tonic required for
a happier, more positive life for everyone involved; it's worth considering if nothing else seems to work.
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