Selfish People: the Cause and the Cure
Being selfless brings humility and joy
The world around us would be much better off if there were far more selfless people living in it. Selfishness is one of the lowest emotions of them all, and is a large reason the world does not have enough of everything for everyone.
Being selfish is like having a bag full of other negative emotions with selfishness taking top seed. The reason people become selfish is because of jealousy, envy, greed and hate. It sow’s the seeds of war, crime, corruption, detachment, family divisions, and disparity among many others.
Selfishness starts right at home, it’s something which can be taught to your children, or warded off by explaining to kids it’s one of the worst traits known to mankind. The problem is many parents have no idea they are teaching their children to be selfish, because it’s the way they were brought up, thus they simply continue to go about their day the same way as they always have.
How do you spot selfish people? It’s easy, watch their actions and reactions and if you are still in doubt check the dictionary for the word “arrogance”.
There likely is not one family out there which does not already have some selfish people amongst them. Perhaps it is by divine design in order to learn the difference between folks with a good heart and others with a dark heart. The bottom line is parents should want the absolute best for their children, and they should do it by nurturing the skills and talents their kids have, not forcing them to do what they don’t want. Children are not trophies, and should not be treated as such; they have dreams and aspirations just as you do and require emotional support and love to reach their goals.
There lies a large problem, too many parents see their children as a little ego representation of themselves, and wish to “carry on the flame” in the same vein of “he who dies with the most toys wins”. Charity starts at home, but there must be some explanation given to children when in their eyes “not enough” may actually be too much.
Being selfish is like having a bag full of other negative emotions with selfishness taking top seed. The reason people become selfish is because of jealousy, envy, greed and hate. It sow’s the seeds of war, crime, corruption, detachment, family divisions, and disparity among many others.
Selfishness starts right at home, it’s something which can be taught to your children, or warded off by explaining to kids it’s one of the worst traits known to mankind. The problem is many parents have no idea they are teaching their children to be selfish, because it’s the way they were brought up, thus they simply continue to go about their day the same way as they always have.
How do you spot selfish people? It’s easy, watch their actions and reactions and if you are still in doubt check the dictionary for the word “arrogance”.
There likely is not one family out there which does not already have some selfish people amongst them. Perhaps it is by divine design in order to learn the difference between folks with a good heart and others with a dark heart. The bottom line is parents should want the absolute best for their children, and they should do it by nurturing the skills and talents their kids have, not forcing them to do what they don’t want. Children are not trophies, and should not be treated as such; they have dreams and aspirations just as you do and require emotional support and love to reach their goals.
There lies a large problem, too many parents see their children as a little ego representation of themselves, and wish to “carry on the flame” in the same vein of “he who dies with the most toys wins”. Charity starts at home, but there must be some explanation given to children when in their eyes “not enough” may actually be too much.
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We have all seen the kids of the parents who are selfish, they have all the materialistic items they wish to have with more coming in on a daily basis. In most cases their parents either have a large house and/or drive an upscale vehicle to get from point A to point B. It’s also a good bet both of their parents work thus showing their interest lies more in themselves than their kids.
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To observe selfishness in action look no further than the dinner table. If any of the family members start taking the food off of the plates of other members, then don’t waste your time being with people like this. It’s a good bet they are over-loading their plate with food so other people do not get their fair share. It’s a very selfish act and begs the question why? These types of people always wish to have what they deem to be “better than what you have”. They go out of their way to constantly remind you about their accomplishments and leave no stone unturned to make sure you don’t miss it; therefore they must get what they want at the dinner table as well, after all in their eyes you are beneath them on the social ladder of false success. They simply want more of whatever they can get so you can have less.
Selfish people are essentially very insecure people. They crave attention and will do anything to get it, and that is usually because they were jealous of their siblings when they were younger, or were largely ignored by their parents; either way it’s a good bet their problem can be traced to their childhood. Many of them hold a grudge against the world, yet they still have children and treat them as if they are second class citizens because they come ahead of them. Sometimes you wonder why they bothered having kids in the first place, but one soon finds out it’s all about the optics and perception of having a family, and not about the loving intent behind it.
Selfish people are essentially very insecure people. They crave attention and will do anything to get it, and that is usually because they were jealous of their siblings when they were younger, or were largely ignored by their parents; either way it’s a good bet their problem can be traced to their childhood. Many of them hold a grudge against the world, yet they still have children and treat them as if they are second class citizens because they come ahead of them. Sometimes you wonder why they bothered having kids in the first place, but one soon finds out it’s all about the optics and perception of having a family, and not about the loving intent behind it.
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It’s also very easy to spot folks who are not selfish. These people put their kids ahead of themselves, they work to live not live to work, with one of the parents usually at home. The kids are loved far more and thus are more confident than selfish kids. It’s a good bet they get home cooked meals made from scratch and are healthier than kids which do not get this type of treatment.
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Kids brought up properly to respect other people, nature, and life in general are eager to lend a helping hand to people without giving it a second thought. These kids like to spend time with their parents because the parents reciprocate; thus resulting in the kids becoming more independent as they grow older. The parents of children such as these are creating a better world because they are a noble example of what a human being should be and act like. This behavior sinks in to the minds of the children thus resulting in empathy; compassion and understanding enabling them to make the world a better place.
The parents will often sacrifice their own “career” for these children to act as god would want them to. This is often done by raising the family in a smaller house and on one income. In other words, the parents fore-go money to ensure their kids are raised properly which is a truly unselfish act. This results in the transfer of concrete values to the children, eventually sending them out into the world with the intent to care and help mankind, not hoard everything and “eat the lunch” of other people.
The parents will often sacrifice their own “career” for these children to act as god would want them to. This is often done by raising the family in a smaller house and on one income. In other words, the parents fore-go money to ensure their kids are raised properly which is a truly unselfish act. This results in the transfer of concrete values to the children, eventually sending them out into the world with the intent to care and help mankind, not hoard everything and “eat the lunch” of other people.
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In order to avoid the act of selfishness, raise the children with the best intentions in mind with love and grace, and make sure you want better for them than what you have. Raising the children of tomorrow today properly will make the world a far better place now and in the future.
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